Read your love interest like an expert
Real-life examples to help you identify their attachment styles
Hi friends!
This past week, I’ve had several friends who have complained about how confusing dating is. Here are some examples of what they told me:
“We had a wonderful getaway and things have been going great but now he suddenly says he wants space.”
“He says he wants to meet up but won’t make plans ahead of time then gets mad when I can’t make it.”
“She won’t prioritize time with me but then comes chasing when I try to break up. What is up with that?”
It pretty quickly became apparent to me what was going on. The love interests of my friends were simply playing out their attachment styles. Attachment styles are how people think, feel, and act when they form close relationships. Psychologists have been studying these patterns for decades and have grouped behaviors into four main styles.
What’s interesting is that all of these friends had heard of the concept of attachment styles and read a lot about them but had failed to recognize it in their partners. I’ve been guilty of the same. It is often hard to recognize something objectively when you are deep in it.
To help them out, I wrote an article that shares what people of each attachment style are likely to say in various romantic situations. If you’ve never heard of attachment styles before, are confused about the behavior of your current love interest, or simply want to understand your lover better - feel free to read the article!
Here is the important part - attachment styles are not easily changeable. No amount of time, effort, or interest on your part can alter these deeply ingrained patterns. So, it’s essential that you are aware of them and work with them as opposed to trying to change your partner or blame yourself. Happy loving!
Never try to teach a pig to sing. It wastes your time and it annoys the pig. — Robert Heinlen