The Best Relationship Tool You Didn't Know About: Google's AI Course
Learn the best prompt (for humans & AI) when you don't get what you want.
One of me clients, Rob, was sharing about his dating journey when he recalled a conversation that seems to be a recurrent theme with him these days.
“I have no idea what happened. We were just talking about meeting her parents and the next minute, it felt like she was mad at me about everything.”
Rob describes dating as somewhat lonely. He frequently struggled to go from a fascinating intellectual conversation to one with more intimacy. More often than not, he could feel that his partners wanted more emotional expressiveness out of him than he was able to provide. He tended to respond poorly to these emotional bids, which led to many conversations like the one above. More importantly, he felt that he was rarely able to communicate his emotional needs and have them met.
Rob, a software engineer, was perpetually confused about why he was such an excellent communicator when it came to coding languages but struggled so much when it came to people.
“Why can’t there be a set of clear rules with people?”
As I thought about how to best guide Rob in a way that made sense to him, I recalled that the best relationship communication framework I had encountered recently wasn't found in therapy techniques or self-help books, it was actually in the most unexpected source: Google.
Google’s AI Prompting Essentials course — designed to teach people how to communicate with artificial intelligence (AI) — turns out to actually be a masterclass in how to communicate with human intelligence, too.
So, read on if you simultaneously want to be better at prompting AI and communicating with humans.
Google’s AI Prompt course is centered around a 5-step framework. Some of the reasons that this framework is so effective is because it is designed to provide as much clarity and context as possible. In addition to the walking through how you can apply the 5-step framework to relationships in detail, the article also covers the following:
Troubleshooting hallucinations and biases - One of the more fascinating parallels between AI and humans is our shared tendency to hallucinate and misinterpret when provided with a request. In AI, this might look like a fabricated source or a confident wrong answer. In relationships, it shows up as projections, assumptions, long-standing resentment, and spiraling thought loops.
The one prompt to use when you don’t get what you want - The biggest difference between communicating with AI versus with humans is, of course, feelings. Emotions are the wildcard that can completely derail even the most well-intentioned prompt. In the article, I’ll share the most effective prompt I’ve learned from decades of being in relationships to use when the conversation isn’t moving in the direction you want. Surprisingly, it also works equally as well with AI.
The most important prompt for happiness - Most prompts are designed for work optimization and not life happiness, learn the prompt you’re missing now to optimize your life happiness.
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